You Probably Have a Fetish
A quick look at sexual desires from the mild to the crazy
Hanna Deeves, Sex Columnist
Fetishes. We laugh about them and make jokes. But what we don’t realize is that pretty much each and every one of us has at least one fetish that we didn’t even know counted. Fetishes don’t have to be crazy and out there. Fetishes are actually quite normal to have.
What exactly is a fetish? It’s a sexual desire that influences gratification. In other words, it is that something that gets you off. Interchangeable with the word kink, there are a whole lot of things to explore that could get you going.
A lot of fetishes are actually quite common, and very normal. Like, pygophilia which is a butt fetish. And who doesn’t like a nice booty? Or stigmatophilia, which is the attraction to tattoos and piercings.
For some, fetishes or kinks can be just an added bonus to sexy time. Like wearing some sexy lingerie or bringing handcuffs into the bedroom. For others, fetishes can make or break the sexual experience.
Tinder user Jerritt is very open and up front about his foot fetish. “Not to sound selfish, but it is a must have for me,” he says.
Jerritt realized he had a foot fetish when he was 13-years-old. He believes that him having a foot fetish was never a choice. “It’s not something that you can just get or turn on and off. It’s something you’re born with,” he says.
Being open and up front about a fetish or kink is important, especially if it’s a make or break one. There is no point in hiding what you like. You have every right to enjoy whatever it is you enjoy. However don’t be surprised if not everyone shares your interests in the bedroom.
Jerritt took being open about his fetish a step further by putting himself out there using “How do you feel about foot fetishes?” as his opening line. He decided to conduct his own survey tracking the reactions from 50 different women.
- Thirty-three women had negative reactions saying things like “Hate it” and “Eww wtf”
- Twelve women had more neutral reactions saying things like “I don’t judge but it’s not for me”
- Five women had more positive reactions saying things like “That’s interesting, I would like to try it”
It doesn’t have to be a foot fetish to get mixed reactions. Not everything is going to be everyone’s cup of tea. From seemingly normal to the totally outrageous, you’re never going to know how someone might react. Open a healthy line of conversation about it and see what each other is comfortable with.
Some slightly more intense fetishes that might need a little more easing into with a new partner include BDSM (Bondage and Discipline/Dominance and Submission/Sadism and Masochism), forniphilia (using people as furniture), symorophilia (staging or witnessing disasters, such as car accidents), dendrophilia (sexual attraction to trees), furries (people who dress up in animal costumes), attraction to undergarments or shoes, older women, younger men, older men, younger women, people that don’t fit into a specific gender, food and many many more.
Fetishes can be different for everyone so it’s hard to say outright exactly what it’s like. If there is something that you have always wondered about, but were unsure if you should give it a try, maybe you should consider it. That inkling of curiosity is probably spot on. Find someone you are comfortable with that shares that interest and do some experimenting.