Rev Up Your Sex Life in 2016
Tips, tricks and things to try
Kate Holowaty, Features Editor
Feeling like your sex life needs a little pick me up? Try out some or all of these things to get your inner sexual prowess back and become fearless in the sack. And yes, that did rhyme, le sigh. Read on!
Buy a toy
People of the world it is time for you to buy yourself a sex toy. Whether it’s a vibrator, dildo or a fluffy foreplay tool it can make a significant difference in your sex life. Use it alone or with a partner to enhance the experience. Nervous or feeling unsure on how to use it? Don’t be afraid to ask the sales associate for ideas, google it or try it on yourself to see what feels best before using it with a partner. Recommendations: The We-Vibe 4 is a multi-use vibrator that can be controlled by an app from anywhere in the world, perfect for a long distance relationship.
Have a threesome
This is for those sexually adventurous folks out there. If you and your partner feel secure enough to invite another person into the bedroom, do your research and then go for it. Set some ground rules and make sure the third party is someone you don’t know. Or if you feel like being the third party make sure you go about it in a safe way. You can use the app 3nder to find like-minded people and couples.
Spend more special time with yourself
Yes, I’m talking about masturbating. To quote Justin Bieber “you should go and love yourself” is the 2016 sexual motto. While having a partner to get off with can be fun, being alone with yourself can have it’s own set of unique benefits. So draw a bubble bath, light some candles, take your time and enjoy.
Get to know yourself sexually
How well do you really know your sexual self? Have repressed desires that you’re too embarrassed to talk about with your partner? Try writing them out to get a feel for what you’re looking for. Life is too short to not voice what you truly want and need in your sexual life so do some soul searching, talk to a counsellor or someone you trust and look for groups in Calgary that support sexual exploration.
Try out a fantasy
If you’ve always wanted your partner to be your naughty nurse or dirty doctor it’s time to try it out. Talk openly with your partner about what you were thinking, brainstorm together and make it a fun thing you’re both down to try and then go from there. Create a safe space that’s pressure free and let loose. Will you perhaps giggle a bit and go out of character, more than likely, but it’s guaranteed to be an experience you both won’t soon forget.
Buy some new lingerie/undergarments
If you are feeling blah about yourself after the holidays this can be the perfect thing to help motivate you to get back to your sexayyy self. Buy something that makes you feel good about yourself, whether it be lingerie or a new bra with (gasp) matching underwear, or even some designer briefs, looking good is the first step to feeling good.
Attend a sex expo or show
I went to the Taboo Naughty and Nice Sex Show earlier this year and it was an awesome environment to learn about new things in the sex world. Go with a friend if you feel intimidated and don’t be afraid to ask the vendors questions. What catches your eye may surprise you.
Take a class that makes you feel great
A class can be a great way to loosen up and feel more connected to your body. This can be anything from a burlesque class, a zumba workout, a pole dancing class or even a cooking class. Whatever gets you in the mood and feeling confident is a go!
If you are the type of person who inwardly cringes at the thought of talking dirty with your partner I feel you, but it’s worth giving at least a couple tries. Communication when being intimate is so important to having that connection and dirty talk can help with that. Talk about boundaries on what you both feel comfortable saying to each other and what’s completely off limits. No need to start memorizing erotica, just start with simple question and answers and elaborate from there.
So there you have it, some tips and advice sure to make 2016 your sexiest year yet. Remember to always do your research, talk about things/questions/concerns with your partner or someone you trust and be safe.