“Dear Sex” Series
Your deepest, most scandalous sex questions answered!
Kate Holowaty, Sex Columnist
Hello lovely friends. Some of you wrote into me with some of your most interesting sexual questions and now I am going to do my best to answer them with the help of my capacious and boundless sexual knowledge, my friend’s opinions and of course the interweb. So grab a glass of wine, sit back and prepare to be educated.
Dear sex columnist,
I get lockjaw when I give blow jobs, how can I stop this from happening?
Can’t Get A-Head
Dear Can’t Get A-Head,
Listen, blow jobs are hard, no pun intended. They are a complex beast for any human to master. You’ve got tongue, teeth, other hand action, friction, saliva maintenance and sucking action all going on at the same time. I’m sure whomever you are giving a BJ to is already pretty stoked that they’re even getting one, so I wouldn’t worry too much about the whole lock jaw thing. If you really want to get serious you could try acupuncture but that sounds expensive and I feel like that’s not really necessary. Just get good with a hand job and suck the D intermittently. Also break up giving a BJ throughout the sesh. It gives you both a break and it’ll only add to the frisky fun. 😉
Dear coolest/hottest sex columnist angel,
Is it easier for lesbians to contract STI’s?
In my super expert opinion, it is not necessarily easier for lesbians to contract STI’s but there are just different infections to look out for that tend to occur more frequently in lesbian couples than in heterosexual couples. Common STI’s that can be passed between women are bacterial vaginosis, chlamydia, genital herpes, HPV and trichomoniasis. But a basic rule to remember for reducing your risk of STI’s is to try to exchange as few bodily fluids as possible.
Be a responsible sexual adult and buy some dental dams, you can find them at specialty sex shops or if you’re desperate use plastic wrap or cut open a condom. Also remember not to share sex toys and to be careful when hooking up on your period.
Dear sex columnist,
I don’t know how to be on top, I feel so self-conscious.
Not a Cowgirl
Oh honey, we have all been there okay! I went through a real being on top rut but I got through it and you can too. Not utilizing this position to your full advantage is a real shame because it’s got a lot of positive aspects including but not limited to: being able to make out intermittently, your partner’s hands being able to do whatever they want, your hands being able to do whatever they want, being able to customize the intensity with leverage and the position itself is a visual masterpiece for him or her. If you’re really feeling self conscious maybe it’s time to treat yourself to a new bra that makes you feel awesome. Keep it on during if you like, it’ll add to the visual for your partner and make you feel le bomb.
Dear goddess of the moon and stars sex columnist,
Should girls clean their anus before doing anal?
From Butt Stuff 2015
Dear Butt Stuff 2015,
If you are thinking about doing anal for the first time, douching is probably a good idea. If it is the first time for you and your partner it might be better to douche just to avoid any, umm crappy issues. Make sure you buy an anal douche if possible as opposed to a vaginal douche. Use a douche 45 minutes prior to intercouse and use lukewarm mineral water if possible. Wash the douche before and after using and make sure to lubricate. You can repeat the douching process until the water is 100 per cent clear. Now you’re ready to have some fun in the bum!!!
Okay so there you have it. You asked and I hopefully delivered. Remember not to take yourself too serious sexually. Have fun, try new things, embrace yo self but always remember to protect yourself and be safe!!!!!
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