Sex Column: Love your love handles
Fat fetishes thrive on your curves
The current beauty ideal calls for an itty-bitty waist, however that has not always been the case.
Once upon a time, rubenesque women were considered more desirable because their weight was representative of the weight of their wallets.
Despite the current trends in our fashion magazines, there are still men out there who crave the voluptuous women. They’re the chubby chasers: the fat fetishists.
There are two types of fat fetishists out there: the feeders and the gainers.
Gainers are individuals who want to gain weight. These people receive sexual gratification when they see their tummies grow. This is sometimes done alone, or the gainer will find themselves in a relationship with an encourager or a feeder.
Feeders tend to pick a skinny mate and get off on feeding them buckets of food and watching them fatten up. It’s kind of like a sexual Hansel and Gretel. This may sound strange, but, there are over 4,000 websites that are entirely dedicated to watching women and men eat on camera and shake their bellies at you.
There are many reasons as to why some people get off on watching someone gain. A man that I met who was a feeder, who will remain nameless for privacy purposes, explained to me that he loved the feeling of being entirely enveloped in a woman’s flesh when he was having sex. This painted a vivid picture in my mind of Luke Skywalker crawling into his Tauntaun for a snooze.
But, then I started to think that was kind of sweet.
He would encourage women to push out their bellies, especially when he thought they were sucking in. For him, he idea of weight loss was almost heartbreaking.
This fella explained that he spent his entire adolescence denying himself the curvy women he actually wanted in order to stick to the status quo of “hot babes” in an effort to avoid being teased by his friends. But now that he’s a fully-grown man, he can bang whoever the hell he wants.
There are some pluses to get with a plus size. Their curves, for instance, means boobs and bums are e’rrywhere. Love it. These BBW — or big beautiful women — are rock stars in the sack.
So ladies, and lads, don’t fret your love handles. Love them. There is always someone who loves them too. We come in all shapes and sizes but in the bedroom it comes down to performance and you can’t focus on performance if you’re too concerned about the way you look.
However, if you are feeling really insecure in the sack, maybe turn the lights out. Remember: everyone looks good by candlelight.
The point is, don’t become a never-nude. Take off all your clothes and let it all hang out. You look good. Especially to that lucky guy or girl who is gonna get some real quick. They’re not going to just turn away when they see you naked. They’re already in your bedroom, right?
Realize that they want you for you and bang the bajesus out of them so they’ll come back for second and third helpings.