Happily ever after
The search to find a happy ending isn’t always an easy one.
Constantly looking for that one person who can make life into a fairytale can be exhausting, but a Vancouver-based author says she has some tricks to make that quest a little easier.
“Frog or Prince: The Smart Girl’s Guide to Boyfriends,” is the first book and five-year long project, written by Kaycee Jane.
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It gives step-by-step instructions on how to find the right guy and ultimately find one’s self.
Five years ago, Jane quit her career as a business executive and began writing this book after taking a look at her now 20-year-old daughter’s love life.
“It was my daughter (that inspired me) and the reason being…I saw my daughter with her boyfriend and I knew in an instant…that he was not right for her,” she explained.
“So I began this process of thinking, ‘Why would she be with him? Why would she think he’s a gift? Why would she even be attracted to him?”
Jane said she realized that her daughter was dating the wrong guys because she didn’t have the right information about what it takes to find someone who’s right for you.
As a “love letter” to her daughter, Jane began to write the book in an effort to help not only her daughter, but also all young girls who are searching for love.
Needless to say, “(my daughter) dumped him after the first draft,” Jane said with a laugh.
The book follows four characters through breakups, makeups and everything in between, while they learn who they are and what they deserve.
Along the way, Jane provides exercises for the readers to do in order to realize their own self-worth.
“I truly believe that a big part of a beautiful life is knowing the difference between a prince and a frog,” she said.
“That means we have to know our own needs and wants. We have to recognize what it means to get those needs and wants met and then we have to know how relationships work; how we get in, how to get out, what life with a frog looks and feels like and what life with a prince can be.”
Frog characteristics are not only specific to guys and, according to Jane, everyone has at least a few warts that make them less-than perfect.
Through doing exercises like asking friends for an honest assessment of one’s personality, one can learn a lot about what’s good about them and what’s not so good.
While the book is an instructional guide to boyfriends, Jane explains that the message of self-worth and realization that she advocates translates to every aspect of one’s life.
She said she believes that knowing one’s self makes for not only a better girlfriend, but also a better friend, a better student, and all around better at life.
“My take on it is that if you know better, you do better,” said Jane, adding that the younger one can learn this information, the easier life will be.
“We shouldn’t have to wake up at 35 and think ‘oh, this is who I am; this is what I need,” she said. “If I would have read this book when I was younger, I would have become more aware and I would have spent less time in relationships that weren’t right for me.”
After catching and releasing many wart-covered men, Jane said she eventually found her prince whom she is currently engaged to and if she follows her own advice, they’ll live happily ever after.